What are you wiling to sacrifice for your parents.

hi sheryl, i think some cultures cannot relate how we are very obligated and sometimes very rigid in following what our parents want us to do............but for myself, i always make it a point to be a friend to my sons, and encourage them to open up to me anything that thet want to ask..

i can be a good friend to them, but there is also a limit......in some major decisions i will always stand as the mother on whom they will respect.........

Thank you Ms Anabelle, I admire you for not just being a mother to your children and that you can also be their friend, and with the limitation i think its the right thing to do also so that your children will respect you as their mother.

i would do what they did for me, everything

Hi grashu, i think your a great son cause you are willing to do everything for your parents, keep it up.

im living independent since i was 18 work for myself to reach my goals. my parents was died when i was on teen age. if they are alive. i can sacrifice anything for them.

for sure your parents are proud of their son ken, sorry to hear that they are gone.

nothing to be sorry she

if i could turn back time,
i should never make my mom cry.
regret is too late and useless...
but now im making up for those mistake.
i throw the junk out of my life,
i'm giving all my best for you mom,
your my true bestfriend,
you never leave me when im astray.
your love keep me in track.
i will give my life for you mom,
your more worthy to live hundred years
more than me....

@kath its great to know your nw makng up to your mom and your lucky you still have ample time to do it.

if its neccesary yes.

thanks for the view at least you are willing to sacrifice if its needed.

why not if not bad. but i must have my own decitions.

@naughty of course i agree with you but im referring to good & responsible parents who i think would never ask their children to risk their live just for their benefit

i know as i said even what they want is good if not fit to my interest i still can enjoy it sheryl...mabuhay !!!

well i respect your idea naughty,salamat and mabuhay!

wala pong ano man kabayan.. hows pinas bulok pa rin ba systema?

okay lng still surviving, yap problema pa din yn.

@naughty but despite that i still love the phils.

i know sheryl.. matibay ang pinoy lol

i dont know who's is my real parents. i will not ! i was an orphan leave by my mom in one foundation ..but to the guy adopted me i will sacrifice even can cause of my death.

sorry to hear that musha but your still lucky to have find person who acted as parent and your a great son for sure willing to risk his own life to the one who considered you a son.

yes do you believe that he is just 10 years older than me? you might know him he got account here "honey". he is the one adopted me. they own the foundation i was born same day as his mom died in their foundation. he thought i am the replacement of his mom.
yes i am so lucky to have him but we never treat each other as dad and son. we more like brother.

Oh really the boss of ken & naughty, he must really be a good man he shares his blessing by adopting you.

yeah he is good guy . i am not alone he has many scholars in his foundations. i am just the one he adopted legally .

Your lucky enough musha hope will make the most out of that oppurtunity because not all is given such a privilege.

i am i did my best to school now i am helping his company.

Good to know that, so i think you will become rich as your boss in the future musha coz you have a good role model.Keep it up brother.

thank you i wish you got good prediction to me lol

When that prediction comes to reality you should tell me that news lol, promise?lol

the future is in your hands. its you to work for it.

well i agree sir, lol.

dont call me sir madam i am young oviously. lol thx anyway

okay brother i know, lol.Good day!

have a nice day its night here anyway.

Parents r like god. They have created us.What ever we can do for them and to keep them happy will be less.So keep every parent happy because our childs will learn from us and they will also follow us and keep us happy.

Parents are not God. They did not create us. They had fun, and we are result of that. It feels nice to see ones parents happy, I will go n extra mile to make my parents happy, but I will NOT lead the life my parents planned for me to make them happy...so there is, and should be a limit how far you will got to make your parents happy.

And..you should not expect that from your children either....

if one fun 100 times in a year and 3000 times in his married life they always not creat kids. We see lot of cases in modern IRA couples r becoming old and waiting for the birth of child but not getting success.Anyway i am not fully disagree with u and i can amend my sentence that parents r not god but as we have not seen god so we can treat our parents like him.And i still feel that all moms r best in the world-

...my parents usually don't need anything from me. ...I'm the type that usually didn't make my parents happy! ...I never listened or did anything they wanted! hehehe!!! ...but, I know I made them happy cause they kept feeding me! hehehe!!!

@john well i think its time for a change its your turn to make your parent happy.

...ok, I did at Thanksgiving, and I will again at Christmas. ...they really don't need me for anything! lol!

You know we can make our parents happy by living a good life not necessarily giving them material things John.

ok...

...bless you WagayenSheryl. ...I'll keep that in mind.

donating a kidney will be as far as ill go ... ;D

oh so your willing to risk your life in that case.

ahem.....no....i will have my second kidney do all the hard work

You can do it unless it's for the sake of oneself future. Not only for the parents but you need to look and take it as a whole for the sake of your family.

No point sacrificing for the parents and eventually you and your family are suffering cos of your in ability to do it.

A loving and understanding parents will never ask you to sacrifice for the sake of her. Always make sure that family come first and parents come as second.

@ Ricky I also agree with you children should not sacrifice their own family just for the sake of their parents there has to be balance also, love for the family and love for parents .
I brought out this topic coz i want to know how we place importance on our parents in cases when they most need our help.

Ok that is good of you. As you said both must be balance and not one sided.

I have come across several cases where married woman put too much importance on their parents compare to their own family. Eventually, their family goes heywire.

@ ricky for both married and single it really needs to weigh things out, as a single person i always say im always ready to sacrifice anything for my dad coz i already lost mom, but lucky i am that my dad never ask me anything that would make me sacrifice my own happiness.

Sacrificing for our parents is acceptable if we are still a single person but not for a married person cos there pros and cons in taking care of our own family other than sacrificing for our own parents.

If we are a single person than that is our responsibilty to take care of them as they are the one who brought us up. They had sacrifice a lot for us and that is what we are today.

Without them, we are nobody and maybe we might not be living in this world. Who else you are going to sacrifice if it's not for your parents if we are still single.

So sacrificing for our own parents is two seperate issue and is only a matter of our status. Sorry to hear that your mom is no more in this world neither both of my parents too.

you have great ideas ricky, im speakng as a daughter and whatever it is that i cn do to help my dad i take it as a privilege and nt an obligation .

Parents who ask their children to make sacrifice for them are not good parents. Parents should let their children live their own life.

but what if they needs your help. would you be there for them.

@ Sheryl
Ofcourse I will be there for them if they need me. I will do anything and everything to help them, for them. There is no doubt on that. They would not need to ask for my help.

But what I don't like is, parents making demands on kids and reminding them, they are doing this because they brought the kids to this world and brought them up. My side of argument for this is, we never wanted to come to the world, they had fun, and we came to this world as a result of that! They did not do us any big fevours by bringing us in this world. I find it very shameful if some parent demand their children to do something for them, like getitng married to the boy/girl they choose, job they want yo to do, or...something like that. I saw my sister had planned the whole life of her son, what sort of job he is going to do, what girl he is going to get married, where is he going to make his house, even how many kids he should have!!...I mean...for God's sake! Let the kid live his life! You had live your life, whether it was good or bad, thats not the question. Even if she made a lot of sacrifice for the child, she has no right to live his life and force him to get married to the girl she likes, and live the life she planned! Its just pure selfish!!

@roshni thanks for those great ideas, i do understand your point that parents should not manipulate their childrens life just like what my parents did for me they just serve as my guide they dont dictate me on what to do they give me the freedom to decide but i always listen to my parents advice.

You got the best kind of parents then. Trust me...not all parents are like that.

Im proud to say yes but sad to say my mother is already gone and i only have my dad left.

Its not selfish. It is the great love of a pure heart ed mother towards her child, as she has brought him to this world with great difficulty. Only a mother can tolerate such a pain. And she will not think it as she is suffering from a pain but instead she will over come it with the never ending love with her baby. it creates a bond of love between them, which can only be sensed by a true mother not by everyone..
its not for the sake of fun they unite for..but instead "a woman can only become complete - when she become a MOTHER".

i know its not the case everywhere & that to in UK. But always have a ' positive attitude '. its good for health.

And in case of ur sister - her true love towards her son made her soo blind that she cant see that her son has grown up. In such a case somebody has to make her understand about the fact..

And i apologize u if anything from my words have hurted you..

The above message is for @Roshni

No...your words did not hurt me a bit...there is no reason for me to be hurt.

But..."a woman can only become complete - when she become a MOTHER" is abosolutely and completely a wrong idea!! Do you mean to say, women who can not have children, or decide not to have children is any less a woman then one who can have? That is not true. Lots of women makes decisions of not to have children, they never feel incomplete. Glorifying women as mother is a pure
Male Chauvinist conception.

@roshni - i think u have miss understood that sentence. What i mean is she will be having completely different set of feelings(ie., becoming a cause for giving birth to another life) & i think it is a wonderful feeling. And hence most of the women do adopt child to experience that feeing and not for the sake of fun..
And i am not glorifying women, its the fact that i am seeing in my life - not only in the case of human beings but u can see it in all living creatures, once u come out from this machine life & experience the true power of nature.

Bingo! you nailed it on dot. Its adamant behavior on parents to expect.. and they never do anything when we want to.

I wanted to sacrifice my old cloth for new ones.. they said NO. When I wanted to sacrifice my virginity .. they said NO.. When I wanted to sacrifice my wife.. also they said NO.. When I wanted to sacrifice my job... also they said NO

and when I asked why did you ever bring me in to the world.. they say .. Act of God or God's will.

So if anything we do is act of God.. why not just DO first..

errr...how did you exactly planned to sacrifice your wife?...Lolllzzz

I tried to explain them in many ways, that she never intended to be my wife, and wants only to be my husband, and "wife" is only the word she picked up while passing customs, and she can never get accustomed to it.

So I asked them how to do a title reversal for an already reversed role?

see I tried to sacrifice my husband hood, so I can come under the "woman" protection act.. and even there they didn't accept my Sacrifice...

and all they want is a compromise, even after making the witness me in various compromising position... lollll

You and your philosophy!!...Lollzz

If you sacrifice something that is important, You Give It Up !
Often in order to be able to do something else...like....
" Women who have sacrificed career and marriage to care for elderly relatives."
"MOTHER'S SACRIFICES FOR HER CHILDREN."

I would sacrifice what ever was nessary for my parents, just as they have for me.

thats nice gypsy, your a great daughter, thanks for sharing your view.

to help my siblings as I wish but its not an obligation

thats great, just like what my sisters and brother did when i was studying but it was just a voluntary thing they were never obligated.

If my parents started dctating my life then no, but they would never do that.

If ever they needed my help i would be there.

Good & responsible parents would never dictate their childred i supposed, what i mean with the sacrifice is in case our parents need to be help.
Thanks tanz your a good daughter ready to help your parents in case the need arises.

there's a big difference in sacrificing and helping....
Sacrifice is always against the will but where as help is every human responsibility...let it be the parents, siblings, friends, neighbours community...any social communal or family issue....
what do the topic reads Sacrifice or Help ? pls be more precise on the topic and its arguements....

@ Muneer how could you say sacrifice is always against the will of a person while in fact sacrifice is a selfless good deeds for others so its just like helping voluntarily. But i do respect your opinion muneer

Selfless good deeds for others is Charity! where as no charity is done by sacrifice...SACRIFICE & HELP ! are two different terms which do not co-relate with each other in anyway....

In real love....there's ain't any sacrifice or pain!

You have the point omama. i must agree with that idea also.

Lol....there's no need that you "must" agree with what I said...everyone has there own free choice.
To me, if I love someone...my happiness will be contained in there smile, so doing anything for them won't be a sacrifice or pain for me as I am not loosing anything(material, emotional or physical), rather I am trying to be happy...and we don't call our self centered efforts as sacrifices *smiles* .

You have amazing ideas omama,im learning from you more that i expect it to be.

R u a christian or a preacher just curious? if you wouldnt mind?

Lol...I hate religion and ain't a preacher for sure, just trying to kill my boring time here!!

ah i see, its just your way of escaping from boredom, good choice omama lol. at least in way you are sharing good ideas.

Lol, what else is zorpia good for?...hahaha, you are welcome!

This is a good discussion and I am sure that everyone has different views when it comes to family and how important they are, and what they would do for their family, or what they would give up, and when it comes to me I think parents are one of the most important thing in the world, and I would give up almost everything for them. There are few things that I am not ready to sacrifice such as my career. I do believe my parents would not happy if I did something that make me suffer for them.

@sherry thanks you have a good point, your correct in saying we have different views when it comes to family and their importance, I appreciate that your willingness to give almost everything for your parents if needed, but i think if your parents loves you they would not ask you to give up something that makes you happy instead they would be there to support you.