I see wht u mean...
well u dont have actually to feel somethng special to be with someone.. u start a relationship to just like the other person and then.. and then the feeling can come to the surface.. it depends...
but no u don't have to feel anything special to be with someone

yea i know, i don;t have to feel anything special to be with someone, but i want to feel im the special one for him... well, he clammed that in his journal saying im the special one, but still, i mean, he seems like having falling in love with a lot of people... and now i don;t even know if he really treat me seriously or just "another chick"

Some guy will say anything to get into a girls panties and then once he does it's pretty much over... He will say stuff to make them feel special until he gets what he wants...

that's wat im afraid of...i mean, i do love him and i want a stready relationship wif him...

.... so is there any way that i can tell him really care me as the special one or not?

lot of guyz r like that some tried it on with me but am waitin 4 the right person an the right time...some guyz r scared of me lol( dnt ask y cos i dnt no)

Allie dont give him everything to soon. If you are to easy to get he will not respect you. When you are really special for him he will stay.

thank you for your advice...

will you mind if your bf had treated other girls he dated before like you? im kind of pissed not because he doesn;t treat me good now, just because...um..i guess cuz im jealous?

Yes girl I can really understand that feeling off jalousy. But almost all guys are the same. Only when he keep treating you the same for long time you really have to worry. Just give him a chance, but keep my words in mind. Dont be to easy for him, boys are hunters you know :)

Wat do u mean exactly by "only when he keeps treating you the same for long time you really have to worry"??

im feeling fucked up because im jealous??? lol...

If you are really the special one for him, he will show you that one way or another. Ya sorry my english is not always so good, but I do my best.
We all are jalous when we love :) that is only normal. But try to control it, dont scare him off with it.

how can i prevent not to scare him off?

i think i mentioned about his ex gfs some time earlier and i knew that i wanted to say i felt bad because he had loved someone else too...but i didn;t say it cuz i was afraid i would pressure him too much....

*confused*

hey allie i know exaclty what u are going through...I mean I had a boyfriend he called me sweetheart, jan, and so many other things, he said he loved me...then I found out he did the very same thing with other girls, not only told them those words but also sent them the very same romantic poems he once sent me...then i felt the shittiest thing on earth, we had many awful arguments...and sometime later he left me for another girl...still i dun beleive he loves her cause our relationship had been facing many obstacles like cultural and religious differences...and their parents simply didnt accept me...so then, after crying over and over i found out his parents had been forcing him to leave me...ya know he is muslim, im catholic...thats just an impossible thing for them...Now i really respect his attitude and I realize he was just trying to prepare myself b4 he really left me by pretending he liked other girls...and i love him even so much more for this...even though we cant be together, i know we know each other not from today but our past lives and we will come to be together in the future somehow...even if in our next lives...oh well life goes on...so please dun give it too much attention to this, dun overexpect things from ur boyf...let him feel free to love you his own way, not the way u want him to love ya...and again, words are only words, but feelings are the soul´s truest reasons for u to be with him or not...and thats what really matters, the way u feel about each other and the way u beleive in your feelings...Good Luck!

thank u...thank u so much dani. :) ><
*tears in my eyes*

yea, i think i should give him the freedom to love me the way he likes, but not the way i want him to...

im so thankful that u wrote me those and im feeling blessed.

sorry for you guys tho...:(

thank you. again. :)
~*allie*~

well.. u know my bf had 11 gfs(with me) and he has beein in love with 3 of his gfs and i am the fourth(or 3rd i am not really sure) so... if u mean somthng like that..
u are gonna have to wait for him to have u as the special one..
for example my bf wants to marry me now.. and he has worked for me and i know that he means wht he says... u know
the thing that ur bf has been in love with other girls too.. doesn't mean that he doesn love u, u know

uh huh, i know...

...just not feeling good u know, i felt he likes to change too much, like 3 girlfriends in 2 months?

but yea, thanks for saying that.

it might just be me but if a guy says the same thing to every girl he has ever dated then he's saying it out of habit, you need to show him what makes you different from the other girls and he needs to be smacked a few times, he also needs to find to words to say, different words than those he has said to others, that show his love for you