Hi Tunde.
I assume that you know each other very well if you have been friends since the age of 12?..She knows that she has hurt and upset you so that is why she wants to meet with you to patch things up..Maybe she was going through a bad time and took it out on you because sometimes we hurt the people we love the most!
You won't know her reasons until you both talk it through as adults. Many women suffer from Pmt or mood swings and it can take the smallest thing to upset your day..
Don't let a small argument come between real friendship because a good friend is hard to find these days.
Go meet her and Im sure that you will both feel better about it and forget about the past and don't hold any grudges...
Just be yourself babe :-)

thank u Linda for ur opinion! ur right, we knew each other too well... the crazy thing is that this incident happend after we spent 3 days talking laughing drinkin' smokin' singin' crying almost 24/24 ...so that's why it was so shocking to me. I think, that I really cut her off after I heard that she's talking lies behind my back afterwards...
I wish I had ur strenght to let go of these...
Anyway I met her for a coffe friday night...she was all the same, like nothing happend, like we just saw each other last week or something, she didn't mentioned anything about us staying away...just kept on talking talking, almost like I wasn't even there :)) ... I hoped I had a glince of sorry and wish to take on with our friendship, but the truth is that she was ...indiferrent. ok, just wanted to thank u and fill u in. kisses

You know Tunde..Childhood friendship is built on love for one another and we havn't learned to be 'indifferent' to each other.Unfortunately as we grow into adulthood we learn new skills on how to control people and hide certain manipulative ways...Im guessing that neither one of you spoke about that incident and avoided the issue of your absence away from each other...thats probably why she kept talking all the time to avoid any silences and was embarressed about her very bad behavior..I think, that you should keep your childhood memories of a close friendship with her and forget about the present circumstances and both move on..Because it will always be a bit uncomfortable for you both to feel relaxed in each others company anymore...sorry but thats life! :-)

u are so so so right! maybe that's why she was talknig randomly ... well I told her that we can meet with our common friends but I think she knows that we can't be what we were... that's life indeed! :)) thank u again.

Ohhh sweetie, i am so sorry to hear this. In my opinion, when you went to visit her, she was either nervous about your vsit there and she crashed, or she was having some sort of problems going on at the time and just a little thing as a blankie, made her crash. I used to be like that also. If my stress level was very high it was the smallest thing that was bothering me and a whole stupid fight with someone (anyone) would have escalated. Now, as i grow older, i learned to prioritize and control myself (or at least stay within a range of handling things that allows me to stay in control).:)Please talk to her. Return her call, give her another chance and explain to her how you felt when the fight happened. I am sure she is sorry also and it is not worth loosing a long time friend over a minute of hormonal problems:P. Then again, i agree with you when you say that your friendship may have remained history..did you miss her all these years:)?

Well the thing is that after I came home and cried my eyes out I actually felt a little like some weight was taken off from my sholders and didn't missed her at all. Actually I managed to keep my distance to her untill now...when a lot of our old and comun friends reached me by phone or by messenger and told me teary stories about how much she' s missing me and wants to talk to me...so I said wtf this biig fuss and drama...let's meet her...but I didn't want to get rude to her nor to let myself lead by the others opinion. As I told Linda too, thank u so much for ur help and support! Thank u ladies!

Can i ask you a question?:) What do YOU want? Do YOU want to see her again or you are doing this just because all of us are putting pressure on you?:)

:)) well I don't want to see her again, and yes I did meet her because all of u made pressure on me :))) but that coffe-meeting just brought out what I already knew ... our friendship is indeed history. BUT at least now I can meet my old friends while she's there too, so in all bad there's a little good to ;)

I am sorry that we pressured you. Maybe i should hve asked that question last week, before it happened. But i am glad that at least you will not live wondering "what if". And now, it all depepnds on how the relationship will go on from here..:)

:)) nooo it's not only u! I had a lot of commom friends and my mom telling me that I should at least meet her, that it's no harm in meeting her, so I felt like some monster...feeling somethings' wrong with me :)) but it isn't that dramatic at all. my grandmother alwyas said to me: If u listen to my advice u will do as u want to. :) and I like listen to the advice given by ppl who matters around me, but always do things my way.
Thanks for ur concern anyway! kisses

Oh, i know it is not only me that pushed you to go and see her. By the way, i am in kinda same situation with a girl from highschool. I tried calling her a few times and i sent her messages, but she never cred to answer me. She was jelous at me when i got married and i came here, so she never returned my calls since. I don't know what was in her head..Now she is married and has a baby. I would like to go and see her (show up at her door step), but i am a little afraid. What if she closes the door in my nose?:P

oh, I don't think that would be a really nice situation...maybe just let her know that u are coming home and u want to see her and let her do the next step. Cause if she doesn't want to meet with u than she's the one loosing a friend. And being jelous of u cause u got married?? instead of being happy for u? hmmm not very nice for a friend to do that.
ps. I had my net installed at home today!!!! finalllyyyy! yupppi! little miracles are happening even on mondays! :)

little miracles happen every day sweetie:). Isn't it great? Now we can chat longer and whenever we want. When i got married i invited her to my wedding, but she didn't come. I don't know what was in her head, but..i miss her. I am thinking of her all the time, because we used to be vcery good friends for about 10 years..after this experience, i don't trust that i could be the same i was back than.:) Now she has her own family and a baby, hopefully she will feel more opened. I remember the competition between us!!! She has never let the guard down. We were compeating in everything (boys, school grades, etc)...

hmmm competition killed my sisters friendship also...so I can imagine what are u talking about. but those who feel the need to make averything a contest, maybe can't enjoy those little victories they are imagining, so they might miss a lot of fun in their life. (never understamd these ppl, I always cried and laughed together with my friends, never could feel angry or jealous if they succeded more than I, cause I know they put hard work in their achievments, it wasn't luck or faith). maybe your friend is more relaxed now with her newborn and she might changed her way of thinkin'...I hope it's all going to be fine for u ;)

I am still debating if i should call her or not, because, if she didn't change since then, she wasn't very friendly with her ex friends. I always was the funny one and she was the serious one. With her everything was: you are either with me or against me. If i had another friend of mine come with me to the park or something, she wouldn't talk to me for a week and in class she used to split the bench with a ruler so i don't cross the border coz she will smack me. I loved her thou and i smile every time i remember our little fights. ...

:))) OMG what a little tiran she was! anyway, if u are going to continue on contacting her u might just be prepared for everything, even for rejection. cause if u wnat to do it so much and ur not going to, u are going to feel sorry, but if u do it and get the big no, u were prepared. so the big surprize will make u even more happy!

Tiran ? :))))) hehehe, i used to call her my jelous candy.She is blonde and cute and she used to have this long, beautiful, dense hair, blonde. She looked like Barbie:))). I will not make me too many dreams about it, just because i know her and if she didn't change, she really doesn't want to see me. This is maybe the real reason for she is not returning my messages, calls or anything like that. :) She is still in my heart!:)