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女生得宠的八种好方法

Mon, 12 Nov 2007 07:05 EST

恋爱犹如一场战争：工欲善其事，必先利其器。想要得到真正的爱情，就要懂得他们的心思。学习相处之道，本文就送你不断恋爱升级的“8样秘密武器”。请仔细揣摩选择适当时机多加操练，你定会在情场上攻无不克、战无不胜。

　　秘密武器一：柔弱

　　适用时机：恋爱初期，任何你需要帮助的时候使用。

　　使用理由：男生都喜欢当英雄。给予女生帮助的时候，男生瞬时觉得充满英雄气慨。小到搬搬抬抬，大到资金援助，只要他觉得自己在你面前有用，感觉自己被需要，就会顿感自豪。他帮助了你，会更爱你。只有需要男生的女生，才有吸引力。

　　使用要诀：该武器有两点使用要诀，一是切勿胡乱加意见瞎指挥，这会抹煞他的男子气慨，令他反感。二是要心怀感激。无论他帮了你多么渺小的忙，都要感谢他，赞美他，把他视为英雄，这样以后才会得到男生的更多感情

　　秘密武器二：让他撒娇

　　适用时机：男生碰到挫折、失意的时候。

　　使用理由：英雄也会累，男生也辛苦。不要让他们承担太多压力，男生希望有人爱他并代替母亲来照顾他，他们心底里都喜欢那种能让自己在她面前撒娇的女生。男生失意时，他需要来自你的带有母性色彩的保护。

　　使用要诀：千万不要嘲笑困境挫折中的男生，此时的他最需要得到你的肯定，依靠你的温情来放松自己，进而重建信心。

　　秘密武器三：保持神秘感

　　适用时机：两人关系不明朗阶段。

　　使用理由：男生都有很强的好奇心，面对很难了解她内心想法和行为动机的女孩，这种神秘感就是吸引力，吸引他们去探索和发现她的秘密。男生天生又有一种征服欲，你越矜持，莫名其妙、难以驾驭，就越让他们着迷，不要让男生觉得你是唾手可得的。曾有男生抱怨那些一味顺从的女生，“我还没举枪呢，她就倒下了。”所以呢，不管你对他多么来电，也不能表现得太过急躁。

　　使用要诀：保持一定距离，才有美感。男生为了能最终征服你陪伴你，不仅不会觉得辛苦，反而会觉得其乐无穷。

　　秘密武器四：给他一个弹性空间

　　适用时机：关系虽稳固，但日久生倦怠时。

　　使用理由：有句话叫“男人需要尊重，女人需要重视”。对男生最好的尊重莫过于给他一个弹性空间，他可以自由呼吸新鲜空气，施展拳脚。男生都不情愿被爱“捆绑”，经常电话追问行踪，过滤他的朋友和嗜好等等……这就好像把他们囚禁在牢笼里。男生时不时会对感情产生倦怠情绪，想要“逃一逃”。

　　使用要诀：聪明的女孩要削减自己的控制欲，放他们出去散心吹风，无论何时何地都不要把男生当成私有财产。

　　秘密武器五：适而保持沉默

　　适用时机：男生向你夸耀时；男生有心事时。

　　使用理由：男生总喜欢对女生炫耀自己，这时你只要聆听就好了。因为他只是想让你“崇拜”他一下，记得还要时常给他一个肯定的眼神。男生在你面前吹牛，往往不过是一种缺乏自信的表现。如果你不能倾听，他的自信心难以建立就会崩溃。许多时候，男生看来心事重重却不肯说。女孩们费心猜测却多以抱怨收场。遇到这种场合，你最好不要出声。

　　使用要诀：在男生不图进取时也要保持适当的沉默。男生的一生中很少能够永远一往无前，大多数男生总会有周期性情绪波动和行为上的调整。鞭打快牛的结果往往适得其反，男生并不总是需要激励。

　　秘密武器六：保持宽容

　　适用时机：当男生沉迷一些在你看来没有意义的小事；他与其他女性有来往时。

　　使用理由：男生期待来自女生的宽容，这往往是他最好的动力是一种实实在在，时时刻刻的需要。你要允许他有时日以继夜地打电脑游戏，或者玩拼图的嗜好，要放他和哥儿们打牌喝茶消磨某个本应陪你逛街的周末，因为男生需要不时地回到年少时光，这是少年时逃避母亲过分的爱和关心心理的再现。

　　使用要诀：男生天生喜欢寻找和欣赏异性身上的美，你要宽容看待他和其他女生的正常交往。男生并没有你想象的那么见异思迁，事实上如果他有好的欣赏力，多半会很好地爱你。

　　秘密武器七：贬低自我以退为进

　　适用时机：自身条件优越的女孩和平常男生相处。

　　使用理由：如果你比自己心仪的男生明显来得优秀，在交往中可以采取一种恭敬的自我展示的形式，在他面前贬低自己，暴露自己的弱点，贬低自己的成绩。由此创造接近和亲密。

　　使用要诀：阴盛阳衰已是不争的事实。男生的自信有时是很不牢固的，女生一强，男生就胆怯自卑止步不前。

　　秘密武器八：适量吃醋与嫉妒

　　适用时机：爱情的敏感度下降，似有老夫老妻的感觉时。

　　使用理由：不懂吃醋的女孩子，就像拍下去弹不起来的皮球—样令人乏味，适时适量的嫉妒和醋意可以证明你对他的爱与重视，满足男生的虚荣。要让他觉得你很好哄，哄一哄醋劲就过去了，这样他会对你放心，男生希望知道女生是否对他情有独钟，但出于男性的自尊不好直接说出口。你要不动声色地让他感到你心中只有他。

　　使用要诀：用吃醋来维系爱情的敏感度要注意：每次不能纠缠在同一件事上，尽量以撒娇的口气说出。

爱她吗？勇敢地说出来...

Sun, 11 Nov 2007 09:59 EST

他长得一表人才，人也朴实憨厚，但他喜欢的女孩，不是他不敢表白，就是因为种种原因选择离开了他。

　　-讲述：遥台(化名)

　　-性别：男

　　-年龄：26岁

　　-学历：中专

　　-职业：做生意

　　那天气温骤降，冷风冷雨，遥台(化名)执意从孝感赶来，令我无法回绝。

　　遥台长得倒一表人才的，就是有些羞怯，一副朴实憨厚的样子。

　　听他的故事时，我脑子里反复回响着朴树的《那些花儿》，以前有段时间我很喜欢听。不知道为什么，我觉得遥台的故事跟这歌的旋律是绝配。其实，对遥台来说，“那些花儿”，他不曾陪她们开放，更不曾拥有她们的春秋和冬夏。不过，他的忧郁、落寞与歌里的男主角是那么相似。

　　情书一封没发出

　　嫣红(化名)，是让我朦胧意识到男女之情的第一人。

　　我们是一个村子的，从小一起长大，同年生，我比她大月份，我们又是远房的表亲，因此，从小就像兄妹一样。那时候，村子里有十多个同龄小伙伴，其中男孩子里最调皮的是我，女孩子里最调皮的是她，我们自然成了很聚焦的“一对儿”。我做任何事，她都很佩服。

　　嫣红初中还没毕业就辍学去了广东打工。我则按部就班地继续上学。

　　我们一天天长大，打工的打工，上学的上学，昔日的玩伴都各奔东西，儿时的快乐时光不再，只留下些美好的回忆片段。嫣红的影子总是在我的回忆里一次次被放大。

　　我终于意识到，我是很喜欢她的。

　　我中专毕业后，在村小学任教，快乐的孩子们，无法填满我青春的心，我时常想起嫣红，想起她的调皮，她的可爱，心中便涌起一股甜蜜的感觉。

　　我开始给嫣红写信，以排解对她的思念。可是，写了一封又一封，一封都没寄出，全放在抽屉里。想她的时候，就拿出来，读给自己一个人听。

　　我问：“写了信为什么不发出去呢？是害羞吗？”遥台想了想说：“是的，但也还有另一层原因。”

　　嫣红是我们那一帮同龄伙伴中最早出去打工的一个，也许是那时候乡里人没见过什么世面，观念都比较保守，也许是因为眼红她家，她出去打工后，经常给家里寄钱，关于她的风言风语渐渐就流传开了。村里人说嫣红在广东那边干的是不正经的事。我特别恨那些说瞎话的人，当然不相信他们说的那些，但他们说来说去多少会影响我的情绪，让我很苦恼。写的那些信，自然就没心情寄出去了。

　　手心的汗把信都攥湿了

　　2005年，我自己也去了广东东莞打工，离嫣红打工的地方不远，终于理解了嫣红，也证明了村里人的风言风语完全是胡猜乱编。

　　那年10月，我去看嫣红，很想趁此机会向她表白。可是，这次我永远错过了机会。

　　嫣红的弟弟也在那里打工，我去的当晚，恰巧是她弟弟参加镇上的唱歌比赛，嫣红拉着我去给她弟弟当拉拉队，我们拼命鼓掌欢呼，我哪还有机会启齿向她表白呢？

　　第二天，嫣红带我去爬山，我想，这是个绝好的机会，这次我一定要说出来。我把以前给她写的十多封信都带上了，打算找机会交给她，我要让她明白，我心里一直有她。

　　山很陡峭，我们爬得非常吃力，气喘吁吁的，我想，这个时候，呼吸都困难，不是合适的表白爱情的时候，还是等下山后再说吧。

　　可是，到了下山的时候，嫣红突然说肚子痛，而且痛得好厉害，我好着急，想对她说“让我背背你吧”又不敢。这个时候，表白爱情，当然更不合适了。我的手在口袋里攥得紧紧的，手心的汗把那些信都攥湿了，就是没把信拿出来。

　　我又错过了一次机会。

　　一直到离开东莞，我都没找到机会向嫣红表白。

　　真是个傻小子！他不好意思地笑笑：“我特别内向。改不了。”

　　我就这样跟嫣红错过了。她也许一直不知道我对她的感情。现在，她在武汉帮别人卖服装，听说不久就要结婚了，嫁到我们那边县城里。

　　讲完嫣红，遥台似乎意犹未尽，叹了口气说：“其实，我一直没敢向嫣红表白，除了性格内向，应该还有一个原因，就是我感觉我们之间的距离似乎越来越远了，再也不是以前那种亲密无间的关系。她在城市打工多年，很多观念都市化了，而我还守着农村人的一些价值观，我们打电话、发短信除了叙旧，再无多的话可说，显得有些格格不入了。”

　　她们都喜欢我但都离我而去

　　后来，别人给我介绍了一位也在东莞打工的老乡，她比我小两岁，长得很漂亮。她家境不好，有个姐姐嫁了，下面还有个弟弟是精神病人，家里把全部希望都寄托在她身上，希望她将来能留在父母身边，帮忙照顾弟弟。那时候有个江西小伙子拼命追她，因为家境特殊决定了她不能远嫁，她就拒绝了那个小伙子，跟我谈。

　　她流着泪对我说了她的家事，我答应将来跟她一起照顾她父母和弟弟。我们情投意合。可是，后来，她还是离开了我。

　　那个江西小伙子追不到她之后，回了江西老家，回家之后，天天想她。后来，听说她恋爱了，又辞了江西不错的工作回广东找她，她心软了，一感动就又回到了那个江西小伙的身边。后来，她还是违背了父母的意愿，远嫁江西。

　　出嫁之前，她跟我见过一面，无语。她觉得愧对我，其实我理解她，祝福她，毕竟她跟那个江西小伙的感情在先。

　　两段感情都无疾而终，我离开东莞去了浙江温州。

　　今年四五月间，我打算从温州回孝感自己做点生意。回来之前，家里就给我介绍了一位姑娘，叫欢娅(化名)，说起来是我小学同学。我还没回家，欢娅就已经以准儿媳的身份在我家吃饭打牌了。

　　我连车票都买好了，可是，在我回来的前一天，欢娅突然打电话给我，让我别回来，说家里又给她介绍了别人，她也没办法。

　　我还是回来了，一回来我就带着礼物去欢娅家找她。她妈妈很冷淡地对我说“她不在”。

　　后来，欢娅背着家人偷偷跟我见了面，她说了自己的难处。她爸前几年出车祸死了，妈妈又有高血压，她虽然一点都不喜欢那个男人，但如果不听妈妈的话，怕妈妈犯病。

　　遥台临走前不甘心地说：“这两个女孩，她们都真心喜欢我，但最后都选择了离我而去。我是不是很差？在我们老家，像我这样年纪已经是老光棍了。”

　　爱要说出来

　　费翔有一首很老的歌，《爱要说出来》：爱要说出来，不要怕失败，拿出点勇气来。遥台很不自信地问：“我是不是很差呀，怎么她们一个个离我而去？”他是差了一点，差的不是外貌，不是身高，不是工作，也不是性格脾气，差的是爱的勇气和技巧。

　　爱你在心口难开，对女人来说，也许有一种含蓄美，但对男人来说，便意味着失去机会，男人的爱，要有些霸气，有些主动性、进攻性。连说出爱的勇气都没有，婚后还有那么多的事需要男人勇敢承担，如何敢指望他？

　　爱，还需要技巧。是技巧，不是伎俩。什么时候表白，如何表白？对没有技巧的遥台来说，这似乎成了天大的一个问题。当拉拉队时，不适宜表白；爬山气喘吁吁时，不适宜表白；下山了她肚子疼，不适宜表白……哈哈，真是个傻小子！对稍有技巧的小伙子来说，这些都是绝好的表白机会呀。

　　爱她吗？勇敢地说出来吧，再适当注意交流的技巧。

其實很多男孩子都不知道

Sun, 11 Nov 2007 08:04 EST

其實很多男孩子都不知道，
女孩子在沖他們發火後自己轉過身卻在不斷啜泣

其實很多男孩子都不知道，女孩子從來不會真正去生他們的氣，
因爲她是真的喜歡他在乎他。

其實很多男孩子都不知道，女孩子只會對自己喜歡的男生嘮嘮叨叨，
也只會對自己喜歡的人耍性子。
你要知道，假若她不喜歡你，
她根本不會來在乎你關心你，怕你做錯事情。

你要知道，假若她不喜歡你，
她根本不會對你發火不會沖你撒嬌讓你哄她，
在別人面前她都是淑女。

你要知道，假若她不喜歡你，你根本就沒有本事讓她哭泣，
讓她即使生氣也不會超過2天。

而這一切都只是因爲她喜歡你，
而這一切都因爲你還不夠在意她不夠懂她。

於是，你們時常爭吵，你認爲她脾氣不好，
她認爲你不夠遷就她。
於是，你們總是冷戰，你以爲她不喜歡你，
她以爲你不在乎她。
於是，你們總是莫名其妙的彼此錯過，
也許擦身而過，本身就是一種悲傷著的無奈與幸福。
要知道，淒美依然是美的一種，並且美的絢麗悲涼而滄桑，
那是更加的美。

因爲她喜歡你，所以她偶爾沖你發火，時常對你撒嬌。
因爲她喜歡你，所以她才會生你的氣；

而又因爲喜歡你，她才不會去生氣很久。
你可知道，每個女孩子的心都是水晶做的，
晶瑩剔透，但是很容易就碰傷摔碎。
你可知道，每個女孩子都是不設防的，

你那輕易就闖進她的心，走的時候卻只留下傷害。
她從來都不知道，這個世界上根本沒有可以讓她哭的人，
因爲真正值得她哭的那個根本捨不得讓她哭。

她會很矜持，她會很驕傲，她會很冷淡，
她總是嘴裏說著你走開，心裏卻一直叫你留下。
請你張開你的耳朵，也請你打開你的心，
去聽她心裏真正的呼喚，而不是她嘴裏的口是心非。

她會看著你轉身，然後她跟著你轉身，當側身而過的時候，
你看不見她的淚，滂沱在臉上心裏。

如果你喜歡她，請你多陪她；如果你喜歡她，請你多寵她；
如果你喜歡她，請你多讓她。
如果你喜歡她，請你去聽聽她內心的聲音，那是呐喊?請擁抱她。

在愛情裏，總是彼此傷害，
彷佛這樣才能證明自己愛得激烈愛到轟轟烈烈。
可是，愛情裏沒有孰對孰錯；愛情裏更加沒有你比我多我比你少。

你愛她，她愛你，如此就已經足夠。不要試圖讓彼此的傷害，
讓彼此更加脆弱悲傷。你們彼此相愛，
你們需要的是溫暖是幸福是甜蜜是快樂，不是傷害。

不要用沈默宣戰，不要互不相讓，更不要什話都不講就冷漠離去。
要知道，你離去的時候，你的眼睛起了霧，她的眼角泛著淚光。
越是安靜戰火就越傳，這是冷戰也是彼此的傷害?
無論是怎的複合，那些傷口曾經存在，抹不去。

請給她一個擁抱，用你的擁抱去化解她心裏的悲傷與眼角的淚水。
她喜歡你，她絕對不會拒絕你的擁抱，
她只會害怕你的冷漠轉身無聲安靜。
請記住，相愛的人不要輕易宣戰，因爲冷戰帶來的傷害，
超出你的預計。也請記住，只要你喜歡她，
沒有什是你接受不了的，只要你喜歡她，就喜歡她的一切一切。

那她所有的小性子所有的壞脾氣所有的臭毛病，
在你眼裏都是撒嬌。也請記住，她喜歡你，她需要的不是你真的轉身，
她嘴裏說著的也不是她的真心話。
她只是想你寵她，想你抱她，哪怕，沒有道歉!

風

Thu, 09 Nov 2006 04:25 EST

因為我喜歡的女孩子叫葉子，因為她有一棵令她依戀的樹，所以我要當一陣風，一陣呵護她的風。

第一次看見她，是高二我轉來一個月後的事，個子小小的她坐在球場旁，一雙眼凝視著同和我在球場的學長，每天的社團時間，她總會坐在那裡，一個人，和朋友，她的眼光依舊凝視著他，當他和女孩子打打鬧鬧，她的眼中有淚，當他看向她，她的眼中有笑。看她成了我的習慣，就像她愛看他。

有一天她沒來，我心中沒來由的焦慮與不安，我無法解釋那種感覺，除了不安，還是不安，而且那學長竟然也不在。我衝去他們教室，躲在外面，看著學長罵她，她的眼淚，他的離去。

第二天，她依舊坐在場邊，看著他，我走過去，對她笑一笑，拿了張紙條給她，她先是驚訝的看著我，然後笑笑地收下。

隔天，她拿著紙條出現在我面前，然後離開。

「葉子的心太沉重，風吹不動。」

「不是葉子的心太沉重，是葉子根本就不想離開樹。」
我回給她這段話後，她漸漸會和我說話，收我的禮物，接我的電話。

我知道她喜歡的不是我，但我還是有毅力一定要讓她喜歡上我，四個月內我告白了不下20次，每一次她都轉移話題，但我還是不會放棄，我決定要的人，我就一定會給它追過來！

一直到不知道第幾次的告白，出了口，雖然知道她一定會又說到別的事，但還是有一絲絲希望她的答應，沒想到她都不說話，「妳在幹嘛？怎麼不說話？」我對著話筒說。

「我在點頭。」
「啊？」我不敢相信自己的耳朵。
「我在點頭！」她大聲叫。

我甩掉電話，匆匆披上一件衣服，上了機車，衝去她們家按門鈴，當她開門的那一剎那，緊緊抱住她。

「葉子的離開，是因為風的追求，還是樹的不挽留。」

葉子

Thu, 02 Nov 2006 03:51 EST

高中時，喜歡蒐集葉子，why？因為我覺得，一片葉子要離開它長期依賴的樹，好勇敢哩！

高中三年，我和一個男孩子很好，不算男女朋友那種好，是好朋友那種好，但是，在他交第一個女朋友時，我學會了一種不該有的感覺，吃醋，心中的酸，不是一顆檸檬可以比喻，那就像是100顆臭酸的檸檬，酸到不行，他們只在一起兩個月，當他們分手，我還得掩飾自己心中強烈的喜悅，但是一個月後，他和另一個女孩子在一起。

我喜歡他，也知道他喜歡我，可是，他為什麼總是不追我呢？明明喜歡彼此，為什麼不行動？每當他交一個女朋友，我就心痛一次，一次又一次的打擊，讓我不禁懷疑，是我一廂情願嗎？不愛我，為什麼要對我那麼好？他對我的好，已經不是普通朋友可以做到。喜歡一個人，好難過，我可以清楚的知道他的喜好，他的習慣，唯獨他對我的感覺，我猜不透，難道要我這個女孩子去開口嗎？

儘管如此，我還是想在他身邊，關心他，陪他，愛他，也許算是一種等待的行為，等待他回來愛我，就像每天晚上等他的電話，等他的簡訊，我知道，就算他再忙，也會撥出一些時間給我。這樣的等待，陪了我三年，等待是難熬的，是令人想放棄的，但等到的那一剎那，讓人第二天會繼續等下去。這樣的煎熬，這樣的痛苦，這樣的幸福，這樣的矛盾，陪了我三年。

直到三年級下學期，高二一個學弟喜歡上我，每天的熱情追求，令我從一開始的拒絕，漸漸願意挪出我心房的一些位置給他。他像一陣溫柔而持久的風，撩撥我這片搖搖欲墜的葉子，到最後，我發現我已經不想只留一點點的位置給這陣風，我知道這陣風，會帶我這片傷痕累累的葉子，到更幸福的地方。

於是我離開了樹，樹只是笑笑，沒有挽留。

「葉子的離開，是因為風的追求，還是樹的不挽留。」

樹

Thu, 02 Nov 2006 03:48 EST

會叫樹的原因，是因為我擅長畫水彩畫，最愛畫樹，久而久之，我的畫作右下方索性以一棵樹來代表我。

高中三年交過五個女朋友，有一個女孩子，我很愛她，卻遲遲不敢追，她沒有美麗的面孔，沒有姣好的身材，沒有撩人的魅力，一個再平凡不過的女孩子。我喜歡她，真的真的很喜歡她，喜歡她的單純，她的直率，她的可愛，她的智障，她的脆弱。

不追她的原因，也許是潛意識覺得平凡如她配不上我；也許是因為怕在一起後，一切的好感都會消失；也許是怕外人的指指點點傷害了她；也許是覺得，她會是我的，不用急著為了她而放棄一切。

最後這個原因，讓她陪了我三年，讓她看著我和別的女孩子廝混了三年，讓她心痛了三年。

她很想當一個好演員，但我卻像一個嚴苛的導演。我和第二個女朋友在廁所接吻，被她撞見，她尷尬的笑笑說：「Go on！」然後跑掉，第二天，她眼睛腫得跟核桃一樣，我故意不去猜想是誰讓她哭成這樣，嘲笑了她一天，她在所有人都回家後，在教室哭了起來，她不知道練球回來拿東西的我，看了她一個多小時。我的第四個女朋友，一直很不喜歡她，有次她們兩個吵了起來，我知道依她的個性不會去惹事，但我還是護著女朋友，她被我吼了一下後，愣住，眼淚滑了下來，我無視她的眼淚，陪女友走出教室，第二天，她依舊嘻嘻哈哈的和我開玩笑，我知道她很難過，但她不會知道我的心不比她好受。

當我和第五個女朋友分手時，我約她出去玩，玩了一天，我對她說：「我有事要對妳說。」她說：「真巧，我也有事要對你說。」「我和她分手了。」「我和他在一起了。」我知道「他」是誰，他追她也有一陣子了，是個蠻可愛的男孩子，活潑有趣，充滿了熱情，追她追得滿城風雨。我不能表現自己的心痛，只能笑笑地恭喜她，但當我回到家，心中的痛楚強烈得令我無法承受，像有個千斤重的石頭壓在我胸口，我無法呼吸，想大叫卻叫不出來，眼淚竟然滑了下來，我掩面大哭，多少次，我也看著她為了那個不願承認的人掩面大哭。

畢業典禮時，我在手機上發現了一封簡訊，這是十天前，我掩面大哭時傳來的，只是我一直沒有去開過機。

「葉子的離開，是因為風的追求，還是樹的不挽留。」

樹葉子風

Thu, 02 Nov 2006 03:36 EST

等待是難熬的，是令人想放棄的，但等到的那一剎那，讓人第二天會繼續等下去
會為了這句話而心疼

我很喜歡其中ㄉ一句話：
「葉子的離開，是因為風的追求，還是樹的不挽留。」

倘若你愛上一ㄍ人，
千萬別裝作無所謂毫不在乎，
愛情，玩不起心理戰呀........

發表時間 2006/11/02 作者 Jet Lee
標題樹葉子風

How attractive r u?!

Thu, 02 Nov 2006 03:30 EST

Hey, try it out and see how attractive you can be to the opposite sex.

1. Which place do u want to have a travel most?

A. Beijing ................................................................go to q.2

B. Tokyo ................................................................go to q.3

C. Paris .................................................................go to q.4

2. Have you ever cried when u see a touching movie?

A. Yes......................................go to q.4

B. No...............................................................go to q.3

3. If your boyfriend or girlfriend still has not come after an hour of your date with him/her, what will you do?

A. wait for another 30 mins.................go to q.4
B. leave immediately................................................go to q.5

C. wait until he/she comes..................go to q.6

4. Do u like to go to see a movie alone?

A. Yes......................................go to q.5

B. No...............................................................go to q.6

5. When he/she asks for a kiss in your first date, what will you do?

A. Refuse...................................go to q.6

B. light kiss on his/her forehand...........go to q.7

C. Agree and kiss him/her...................go to q.8

6. Are you a humorous person?

A. I think I am.............................go to q.7

B. I think I am not.........................go to q.8

7. Do you think you are a capable leader?

A. Yes......................................go to q.9

B. No.......................................go to q.10

8. Which gender will you choose to be born if you are given a chance?

A. Male.....................................go to q.9

B. Female...................................go to q.10

C. I don't mind.............................Type D (go straight to results below)

9. Have you ever got more than one boyfriends or girlfriends at a time

A.Yes......................................Type B (go straight to results below)

B. No.......................................Type A (go straight to results below)

10. Do you think you are intelligent?

A. Yes......................................Type B (go straight to results below)

B. No.......................................Type C (go straight to results below)

RESULTS

Type A : Congratulations! You can extremely attract the opposite sex!
You possess a charming beauty in the eyes of them. You not only have a pretty figure,
but also have a humorous and gentle personality. You should be a literate person
and know how to get along with people and can allocate your time well,
thus you are always popular among the opposite sex.

Type B : Quite good! You can easily attract the opposite sex, but you will

not easily into the loving trap. Your humor makes them want to get

along with you. He/She will be happy being with you!

Type C : Not bad! You cannot attract the opposite sex very well, but

you still have something good which make them like to get along with you.

You should be an honest person and have a unique view in seeing things.
You are quite friendly in the eyes of your friends.

Type D : Oh! You do not attract the opposite sex.
You do not have much knowledge, and not much intrinsic humane values.
You are too rude to the opposite sex. Thus you are not very popular among them.

Find out which tree u fell from....!

Thu, 02 Nov 2006 03:18 EST

Dec 23 to Jan 01 - Apple Tree Jan 01 to Jan 11 - Fir Tree Jan 12 to Jan 24 - Elm Tree Jan 25 to Feb 03 - Cypress Tree Feb 04 to Feb 08 - Poplar Tree Feb 09 to Feb 18 - Cedar Tree Feb 19 to Feb 28 - Pine Tree Mar 01 to Mar 10 - Weeping Willow Tree Mar 11 to Mar 20 - Lime Tree Mar 21 - Oak Tree Mar 22 to Mar 31 - Hazelnut Tree Apr 01 to Apr 10 - Rowan Tree Apr 11 to Apr 20 - Maple Tree Apr 21 to Apr 30 - Walnut Tree May 01 to May 14 - Poplar Tree May 15 to May 24 - Chestnut Tree May 25 to Jun 03 - Ash Tree Jun 04 to Jun 13 - Hornbeam Tree Jun 14 to Jun 23 - Fig Tree Jun 24 - Birch Tree Jun 25 to Jul 04 - Apple Tree Jul 05 to Jul 14 - Fir Tree Jul 15 to Jul 25 - Elm Tree Jul 26 to Aug 04 - Cypress Tree Aug 05 to Aug 13 - Poplar Tree Aug 14 to Aug 23 - Cedar Tree Aug 24 to Sep 02 - Pine Tree Sep 03 to Sep 12 - Weeping Willow Tree Sep 13 to Sep 22 - Lime Tree Sep 23 - Olive Tree Sep 24 to Oct 03 - Hazelnut Tree Oct 04 to Oct 13 - Rowan Tree Oct 14 to Oct 23 - Maple Tree Oct 24 to Nov 11 - Walnut Tree Nov 12 to Nov 21 - Chestnut Tree Nov 22 to Dec 01 - Ash Tree Dec 02 to Dec 11 - Hornbeam Tree Dec 12 to Dec 21 - Fig Tree Dec 22 - Beech Tree APPLE TREE(the Love) - of slight build,lots of charm, appeal, and attraction, pleasant aura, flirtatious, adventurous, sensitive, always in love, wants to love and be loved, faithful and tender partner, very generous, scientific talents, lives for today, a carefree philosopher with imagination. ASH TREE(the Ambition) - uncommonly attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism, ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with its fate, can be egoistic, very reliable and trust-worthy, faithful and prudent lover, sometimes brains rule over the heart, but takes partnership very seriously. BEECH TREE(the Creative) - has good taste, concerned about its looks, materialistic, good organization of life and career, economical, good leader, takes no unnecessary risks, reasonable, splendid lifetime companion, keen on keeping fit (diets, sports, etc.) BIRCH TREE(the inspiration) - vivacious, attractive, elegant, friendly, unpretentious, modest, does not like anything in excess, abhors the vulgar, loves life in nature and in calm, not very passionate, ull of imagination, little ambition, creates a calm and content atmosphere. CEDAR TREE(the Confidence) - of rare beauty, knows how to adapt, likes luxury, of good health, not in the least shy, tends to look down on others, self-confident, determined, impatient, wants to impress others, many talents, industrious, healthy optimism, waiting for the one true love, able to make quick decisions. CHESTNUT TREE(the Honesty) - of unusual beauty, does not want to impress, well-developed sense of justice, vivacious, interested, a born diplomat, but irritates easily and sensitive in company, often due to a lack of self-confidence, acts sometimes superior, feels not understood loves only once, has difficulties in finding a partner. CYPRESS TREE(the Faithfulness) - strong, muscular, adaptable, takes what life has to give, happy content, optimistic, needs enough money and acknowledgment, hates loneliness, passionate lover which cannot be satisfied, faithful, quick-tempered, unruly, pedantic, and careless. ELM TREE(the Noble-mindedness) - pleasant shape, tasteful clothes, modest demands, tends to not forgive mistakes, cheerful, likes to lead but not to obey, honest and faithful partner, tends to an all-attitude and making decisions for others, noble minded, generous, good sense of humor, practical. FIG TREE(the Sensibility) - very strong, a bit self-willed, independent, does not allow contradiction or arguments, loves life, its family, children and animals, a bit of a butterfly, good sense of humor, likes idleness and laziness, of practical talent and intelligence. FIR TREE(the Mysterious) - extraordinary taste, dignity, cultivated airs, loves anything beautiful, moody, stubborn, tends to egoism but cares for those close to them, rather modest, very ambitious, talented, industrious, uncontented lover, many friends, many foes, very reliable. HAZELNUT TREE(the Extraordinary) - charming, undemanding, very understanding, knows how to make an impression, active fighter for social cause, popular, moody, and capricious lover, honest, and tolerant partner, precise sense of judgment. HORNBEAM TREE(the Good Taste) - of cool beauty, cares for its looks and condition, good taste, tends to egoism, makes life as comfortable as possible, leads reasonable, disciplined life, looks for kindness, an emotional partner and acknowledgment, dreams of unusual lovers, is seldom happy with her feelings, mistrusts most people, is never sure of its decisions, very conscientious. LIME TREE(the Doubt) - accepts what life dishes out in a composed way, hates fighting, stress, and labor, tends to laziness and idleness, soft and relenting, makes sacrifices for friends, many talents but not tenacious enough to make them blossom, often wailing and complaining, very jealous, loyal. MAPLE TREE(Independence of Mind) - no ordinary person, full of imagination and originality, shy and reserved, ambitious, proud, self-respect,hungers for new experiences, sometimes nervous, many complexes, good memory, learns easily, complicated love life, wants to impress. OAK TREE(the Brave) - robust nature, courageous, strong, unrelenting, independent, sensible, does not love changes, keeps its feet on the ground, person of action. OLIVE TREE(the Wisdom) - loves sun, warmth and kind feelings, reasonable, balanced, avoids aggression and violence, tolerant, cheerful, calm, well-developed sense of justice, sensitive, emphatic, free of jealousy, loves to read and the company of sophisticated people. PINE TREE(the Particular) - loves agreeable company, very robust, knows how to make life comfortable, very active, natural, good companion, but seldom friendly, falls easily in love but its passion burns out quickly, gives up easily, many disappointments until it finds its ideal, trustworthy, practical. POPLAR TREE(the Uncertainty) - looks very decorative, no self-confident behavior, only courageous if necessary, needs goodwill and pleasant surroundings, very choosy, often lonely, great animosity, artistic nature, good organizer, tends to philosophy, reliable in any situation, takes partnership seriously. ROWAN TREE(the Sensitivity) - full of charm, cheerful, gifted without egoism, likes to draw attention, loves life, motion, unrest, and even complications, is both dependent and independent, good taste, artistic, passionate, emotional, good company, does not forgive. WALNUT TREE(the Passion) - unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egoistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromise. WEEPING WILLOW(the Melancholy) - beautiful but full of melancholy, attractive, very empathetic, loves anything beautiful and tasteful, loves to travel, dreamer, restless, capricious, honest, can be influenced but is not easy to live with, demanding, good intuition, suffers in love but finds sometimes an anchoring partner. LIFE IS LIKE RIDING A BICYCLE, U DON'T FALL UNLESS U STOP PEDALLING

25 Things That A Perfect Guy Would Do

Thu, 02 Nov 2006 03:16 EST

1. Know how to make you smile when you are down.

2. Try to secretly smell your hair, but you always notice.

3. Stick up for you, but still respect your independence.

4. Be so wrapped up in everything else, but still have time for you.

5. Fit his arms firmly around you.

6. Hint that he wants to kiss you.

7. His hands always find yours.

8. Be cute when he really wants something.

9. Never run out of new games to play.

10. Never run out of good jokes.

11. Never run out of love.

12. Be funny, but know when to be serious.

13. Realize he's being funny when he needs to be serious.

14. Be patient when you take forever to get ready.

15. React so cutely when you hit him and it actually hurts.

16. Smile.

17. Kiss you.

18. Try to hide that one stuffed animal when you come over.

19. Act like Mr. Big.

20. Apologize for acting like Mr. Big.

21. Ask you for a pen in class and you know he has one.

22. Blast the music when he picks up the phone.

23. Turn it off when he notices that you are on the phone.

24. Look at you durring class and make you get butterflies in your stomach.

25. Hug you on a bad day and the clouds seem to lift.

See whether its true or not........TELL ME....

Thu, 02 Nov 2006 03:14 EST

To find your love attitude, add your birthdate together. Keep reducing it until it's a single digit.

Example: January 28 = 1+28 = 29 = 2+9 = 11 = 1+1 = 2 ; your love attitude number is 2.

Read on below to find out what your love style is supposed to be.

One

****

You are charming imaginative and independent. Usually your style is ahead of others'; you know what's in and what's way out. Sometimes you're a little too aggressive when it comes to pursuing a love interest. You have a way of drawing attention wherever you go, and this dramatic flair usually attracts the strongest guys. Your competitive nature either draws or repels guys/gals...but those who can't handle your power aren't your type anyway. At times you can be possessive, manipulating and demanding with your friends and in love relationships. You like guys/gals with lots of intelligence...and knock-'em-dead good looks don't hurt either.

Two

****

Your love nature is sentimental, romantic and kind. You easygoing,mild manner allows almost everyone to feel very comfortable with you-especially shy guys/gals. Your modesty and tact enable you to get along easily with both sexes. You are a natural peacemaker and can be very persuasive with words, which helps you to gain the respect of your classmates. You can also be too sensitive at times, and your greatest drawback is a lack of confidence to stand up for yourself in conflict. Your favorite type of guy/gal is a gentle, affectionate one who is also strong and playful. A great sense of humor is also a must. A guy/gal who loves to listen to music and dance should rank high on your list of favorites,too.

Three

*****

You are imaginative, fun loving, thrill seeking and expressive. You're so charming that you attract many friends and you are almost never lacking guys/gals. In your earlier year, you maybe totally shy and self-conscious,but you'll lose those qualities in the high school years. You can be sort of vain or even a bit of a show-off when you get caught up in exciting events in your life, but you usually redeem yourself in some playful way before you lose a friend. ealousy shows its ugly head sometimes,but generally you aren't affected by it unless your guy/gal tries to provoke it. In the guy department, you prefer the athletic or artistic types. You're in absolute heaven when you find both of those qualities in the same guy. When you're looking for love, a guy who can make you laughscores points,big time!

Four

****

You tend to be loyal, dedicated and good-hearted. You're one of the most diligent students when you

really try,and you tend to make yourschoolwork a priority. You also express those same qualities in your love relationship. No one is more faithful and rusting than you. In fact,those tendencies can be a little negative in your romantic life. You may sometimes hang on too long to a guy/gal who doesn't give you the respect and love you deserve. You can be stubborn and a bit of a troublemaker if the mood strikes you but you can usually dig yourself out of that hole just in time to stay out of major trouble. You usually fall for extremes when choosing a love mate - he/she may be a show-off or a teacher's pet. Whatever the type, it helps if he/she is good-looking, too, but that's not a major consideration for you.

Five

****

Your love attitude is adventurous, charismatic and spontaneous. You're creative and adaptable, and you can come up with the most exciting and sometimes daring things to do. Your quick Intelligence and way with words help get you out of the problems that come with being flirtatious a playing hard to get. You need to pay close attention to your personal values because you love to try new and different things and easily go along with the crowd and the consequences can put extra strain on your relationship with a boy/girl.

You like guys/gals who have great bodies and good looks, along with exceptional brain and high grades. It helps if they are highly athletic or involved in as many activities as you, otherwise you might get bored! Variety is the key to your love attitude number.

Six

***

You are warm, loving, devoted and affectionate. Your outgoing, thoughtful nature attracts many girlfriends to you, and usually some of the nicest guys too. Because of your need to care, you can end up in a relationship that requires too much care taking to make it balanced. Since home and family play important roles in your life, you are unlikely to be attracted to guys/gals who your parents wouldn't like. Sometimes you have a slight jealous streak...but it doesn't last long. Some people with this love attitude number are prone to making harsh judgements of others, especially when others don't share your set of values. You are especially attracted to the good looking, boy/girl-next-door type who is smart as well as a gentleman/lady.

Seven

*****

Your love nature is thoughtful, poetic, mystical and mysterious. A few people with love attitude number seven are class clowns, and they usually attract guys/gals who like to be given a hard time. But most of you are the quiet, reserved types who dislike calling attention to yourself. Your type generally attracts guys who feel the same way you do. Your refined, independent and secretive nature is very alluring to certain guys/gals. At times you can also be somewhat fault-finding and a little demanding in your love relationship and with friends. You are mostly attracted to guys/gals who aren't like all the rest; a loner easily attracts you. And, if he/she reads a lot and enjoys learning, he/she is especially perfect for you.

Eight

*****

Your love attitude is confident, powerful and exciting. This number usually makes for a very conscientious student, someone who puts schoolwork ahead of a social life. However, you also enjoy being a leader among your classmates and will seek offices or other positions that enable you to use your leadership skills. Because of this, you can be somewhat intimidating to certain guys/gals. You can also be a little too intense, bossy and jealous for your own good. Your love match is definitely someone who is smart, handsome and popular. You like quality over quantity and will usually wait until the guy/gal with the best attributes comes along.

Nine

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You have a sophisticated attitude that is also generous and considerate Your responsible charitable nature may find you attracting guys/gals who want someone to confide in or who makes them feel secure. At a very young age, you developed the type of personality that makes others feel safe and protected. You will carry these qualities into your adult years and, down the road, you'll be a good mom/dad because of them. On the negative side, you can be argumentative and overly emotional, and you usually possess a temper that can make everyone run for cover. You like the kind of guy/gal who is responsible and impeccably dressed and has gorgeous eyes and a great body. Charm, wit and (of course) brilliance could make him the perfect guy/gal for you.

Read Carefully and Understand the Meanings:

Thu, 02 Nov 2006 03:11 EST

Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a tear.

Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you.

If love isn't a game, why are there so many players?

Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.

You can only go as far as you push!

Actions speak louder than words.

The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else.

Don't let the past hold you back, you're missing the good stuff.

Life's short. If you don't look around once in a while you might miss it.

A best friend is like a four leaf clover, hard to find and lucky to have.

Some people make the world special just be being in it.

Best friends are the siblings God forgot to give us.

When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there.

True friendship never ends.

Friends are forever.

Good friends are like stars....you don't always see them, but you know they are always there.

Don't frown, you never know who is falling in love with your smile.

What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?

Nobody is perfect until you fall in love with them.

Everything is okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end.

Most people walk in and out of your life, but only friends leave footprints in your heart.

TESTING ...TESTING ...

Fri, 13 Oct 2006 23:02 EST

This one's a little different everyone. Okay, first get a piece of paper and label it from 1-10 Now remember, you need to put some serious thought into these questions!

1. What is your favorite out of these three?

a. cat b. bird c. dog

2. What is your favorite color?

a. pink b. white c. black

3. Name a person of the same sex.

4. Name a person of the opposite sex.

5. Do you like the mountains, or beach better?

6. Do you like to watch the sun rise, or the sun set?

7. What's your favorite number from 1-10

8. What is your favorite plant?

a. red rose b. fern c. a dead one

9. What is your favorite season?

a. Spring b. Winter c. Summer

10. Make two wishes.

RESULT

1. a) cat: you love yourself the most.

b) bird: you like hearing yourself talk.

c) dog: you put others before yourself.

2. a) pink: you're outgoing

b) white: you're classical

c) black: you're living on the edge.

3. They are your lucky star

4. You'll become very, very close friends with them.

5. a) mountains: fast paced wedding.

b) beach: slow paced wedding.

6. a) sunrise: you're a morning person and you get more done.

b) sun set: you are romantic and you fall in and out of crushes slowly.

7. The number you picked is how many it will take before you find your true love.

8. a) red rose: your life will be beautiful but sometimes thorny.

b) fern: your life will be predictable and > > safe.

c) a dead one: your one sick person!

9. a) spring: you're hopelessly romantic.

b) winter: you're a hugging kind of person.

c) summer: you're a bare all kind person.

10. Your wish will come true in two days.

Just Kidding……

Fri, 13 Oct 2006 22:58 EST

Girl : Do you love me ?

Boy : Yes Dear

Girl : Would you die for me ?

Boy : No, mine is undying love

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1st thief : Oh ! The police is here. Quick! Jump out of the window

2nd thief : But this is the 13th floor.

1st thief : Hurry! this is no time for Superstitions.

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Man : How old is your father ?

Boy : As old as me

Man : How can that be ?

Boy : He became a father only when I was born

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Waiter : I've stewed liver, boiled tongue and frog's leg.

Customer : Don't tell me your problems. Give the menu card.

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Teacher: Desmond, your composition on "My Dog" is exactly the same as your brother's. Did u copy his?

Desmond: No, teacher, it's the same dog!

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Father: Your teacher says she finds it impossible to teach you anything!

Son : That's why I say she's no good!

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Manager : Sorry,but I can't give u a job. I don't need much help.

Job Applicant: That's all right. In fact I'm just the right person in this case. You see, I won't be of much help anyway!!

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Subject: SMART KIDS!!

Some jokes to make u smile :-)

Dad : "Son, how can you call your aunt stupid? Go and say sorry to her."

Son : (goes over to the aunt) "Aunt, I am sorry you are stupid.

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Teacher: "Spell 'WATER',"

Girl : "HIJKLMNO."

Teacher: "That doesn't spell 'WATER',"

Girl : "Yes, it does it's all the letters from 'H to O'."

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Teacher: "How do u think Shakespeare wrote such master pieces?"

College student: "With a pencil, maam, either a 2B or not 2B."

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"Mum, teacher was asking me today if I have any brothers or sisters who will be coming to school."

"That's nice of her to take such an interest. What did she say when u told her u are the only child?"

"She just said, 'Thank goodness!'"

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Teacher: "Where were u born?"

Student: "Singapore, Sir."

Teacher: "Which part?"

Student: "All of me, Sir."

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Teacher: "Chong, u missed school last Friday."

Chong : "You're wrong, Sir."

Teacher: "Wrong, how is that?"

Chong : "I was absent, yes but I certainly didn't miss it!"

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A teacher was asking her class: "What is the difference between 'unlawful' and 'illegal'?"

Only one hand shot up. "Ok, answer, Joan," said the teacher.

"'unlawful' is when u do something the law doesn't allow and 'illegal' is a sick eagle."

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Bad News and very bad news

Doctor : I have some bad news and some very bad news.

Patient : Well, might as well give me the bad news first.

Doctor : The lab called with your test results. They said you have 24 hours to live.

Patient : 24 hours! That's terrible!! What could be worse? What's the very bad news?

Doctor : I've been trying to reach you since yesterday.

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Good news and bad news

Patient : I'm in a hospital! Why am I in here?

Doctor : You've had an accident involving a train.

Patient : What happened?

Doctor : Well, I've got some good news and some bad news. Which would you like to hear first?

Patient : Well... The bad news first ...

Doctor : Your legs were injured so badly that we had to amputate both of them.

Patient : That's terrible! What's the good news?

Doctor : There's a guy in the next ward who made a very good offer on your slippers.

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Tooth extraction

Patient : How much to have this tooth pulled?

Dentist : -90.00.

Patient : -90.00 for just a few minutes work???

Dentist : I can extract it very slowly if you like.

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Teacher : "How come you do not comb your hair?"

Ah Kow : "No comb, Sir."

Teacher : "Use your dad's then."

Ah Kow : "No hair, Sir."

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A boy come home from school with his exam results.

"What did u get?" asked his father.

"My marks are under water," said the boy. "What do u mean 'underwater'?"

"They are all below 'C' level"

THE ULTIMATE FRIENDSHIP

Fri, 13 Oct 2006 22:57 EST

The melody of a friend's laughter

The promise of their attentive ear,

A willingness to forgive and forget

For the times you caused them tears.

Memorizing special moments

Of old times and of new,

Bonding a friendship's foundation

With this strong adhesive glue.

Borrowing a friend's sanity

When life sometimes steals yours,

Their offer of supportive wisdom

Helping to guide you back on course.

Anxiously waiting to catch up

When schedules busily collide,

Being comfortable with silence

When conversation seems to hide.

Friends Forever....

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