My friend John McHugh is always telling me things, things that younger men need wiser, older men to tell them. Things like whom to trust, how to love, how to live a good life.

Not long ago John lost his wife, Janet, to cancer. God knows she was a fighter, but in the end the disease won their eight-year battle.

One day John pulled a folded paper from his wallet. He’d found it, he told me, while going through drawers in his house. It was a love note, in Janet’s handwriting. It looked a little like a schoolgirl’s daydream note about the boy across the way. All that was missing was a hand-drawn heart and the names John and Janet. Except this note was written by the mother of seven children, a woman who had begun the battle for her life, and very probably was within months of the end.

It was also a wonderful prescription for holding a marriage together. This is how Janet McHugh’s note about her husband begins:” Loved. Cared. Worried. ”

As quick with a joke an John is, apparently he didn’t joke with his wife about cancer. He’d come home, and she’d be in one of the moods cancer patients get lost in, and he’d have her in the car faster than you can say DiNardo’s, her favorite restaurant. “Get in the car,” he’d say,” I’m taking you out to dinner.”

He worried, and she knew it. You don’t hide things from someone who knows better.

“Helped me when I was sick.” is next. Maybe Janet wrote her list when the cancer was in one of those horrible and wonderful remission periods, when all is as it was—almost—before the disease, so what harm is there in hoping that it’s behind you, maybe for good?

“Forgave me for a lot of things.”

“Stood by me.”

And then, good service to those of us who think giving constructive criticism is our religious calling: “Always complimentary.”

“Provide everything I ever needed.” Janet McHugh next wrote.

Then she’d turned the man she had lived with and been in love with for the majority of her life. She’d written:” Always there when I needed you.”

The last thing she wrote sums up all the others. I can picture her adding it thoughtfully to her list. ”Good friend.”

I stand beside John now, unable even to pretend that I know what it feels like to lose someone so close. I need to hear what he has to say, much more than he needs to talk.

“John,” I ask,” how do you stick by someone through 38 years of marriage. “let done the sickness too? How do I know I’d have what it takes to stand by my wife if she got sick?”

“you will,” he says. ”If you love her enough, you will.”

          不知活着的意义，也不知为什么而活着。只觉得活着好累，好累........

看着人家活着是那么的轻松,那么的有干劲,那么的有动力,那么的有激情.......

自己这是怎么了?一直再问自己,可是却找不到答案.

          有时候真的想如果能一直睡着,再也不要醒来那该多好。因为活着

就会胡思乱想，想些没有意义的事情。可是朋友的话却不能不让我好好

反醒：父母把你养这么大，容易吗？你都回报给他们什么了。

           是的，我真的很自私，他们含辛茹苦把我养这么大。我还什么都没

回报给他们，就想这么自私的已走了之，那真的很对不起他们。可是我要

怎么办呢？

            我不知道，真的不知道。生活是那么的空虚，空虚到让我觉得可怕

。谁又能给我答案呢？我找不到答案..........

(1)写下一个异性的名字.         

(2) 你最喜欢的颜色是红色,黑色,蓝色,绿色,黄色.          

(3) 你名字的第一个字母.           

(4) 你生日是几月?          

(5) 黑色和白色你喜欢什么色?           

(6) 写下一个同性的名字.           

(7) 你最喜欢的数字.           

(8) 你喜欢美国的:加利福尼亚洲还是佛罗里达洲?          

(9) 你喜欢湖还是海?          

(10) 许一个实际的愿望.




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答案:       

(1)你深深爱着这个人.         

(2)红色:你是一个很警戒的人.        
黑色:你很保守,但很自负.        
绿色:你很放松.        
蓝色:你同时爱着很多人,你喜欢你爱的人的爱和吻.        
黄色:你是一个快活的人.         

(3)你的字母是:        
A-K:你一生中有很多爱和友情.        
L-R:你的爱情生活马上就要开放.        
S-Z:你的爱情生活充满希望.        

(4)如果你生在:        
1-3月,你很走运,你会爱上一个人.        
4-6月,你有一个很好的爱情.不会很长,但很美好.        
7-9月,你会在这一年经利好的,很大的变化.        
10-12月,你的爱不是很好,但找到最终的人.        

(5)如果你选了:        
黑色,你的生命将改变方向,非常好!!!        
白色,你有一个朋友愿意为你做任何事,你可能不知道.         

(6)他是你最好的朋友.         

(7)这就是你一生中贴心朋友的数目.        

(8)加利~~~:你是一个爱冒险的人.        
佛罗~~~:你是一个懒人.        

(9)如果你选了:        
湖:你很忠诚,也很保守.        
海:你同时爱着很多人,也很希望你爱的人幸福.        

(10)如果你在这一个帖上回了话,并在另一个地点发表这个测验,你的愿望就会在下一个生日上实现!!!快去行动!