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Tuesday,May 13 2008, 10:18:57 PM
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A concern friend emailed to me this article which she thinks of relevance, mwah love her much!!
"DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?" ---------------------------------------- During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?". I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer... EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): "THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND." SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..you can "make" love. Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . Not just a feeling . Remember this always... "God determines who walks into your life , It is up to you to decide who you allow to walk away, who you allow to stay, and who you refuse to let go , It's all in your mind to make the decision, Pray hard and god will show you the journey , and remember when there is opportunities, go for it and consider, And the right decision made, you will be happy forever. " |
Tuesday,May 13 2008, 02:17:55 AM(Last updated: Tuesday,May 13 2008, 02:20:04 AM)
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Can u n i be really frenz?? Was absolutely thrilled 2am when you appeared i saw ur open arms i shuddered in fear we sat n chatted got to know another better started with formal xchanges lil by little came laughter you said u were lonely you said u needed a friend you said u like me a lot didnt u sense my doubt n fear? Can we really b frenz can we really b just frenz a friend in need is one indeed a friend indeed is one in need? |
Tuesday,May 6 2008, 07:36:56 PM(Last updated: Monday,May 12 2008, 11:06:17 AM)
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To make you feel my love When the rain is blowing in your face When evening shadows and the stars appear hmmmm...
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ur still awake? S 4 me, the usuals, trying harder to write more. Ur pictures are as always exquisite!!They as speacial as the person who sent them!!Thanks
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Thanks for being such a good friend!!!
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Shima,
Keep happy and keep smiling!!! Don't stress about your reports, you'll do just fine. Don't let anything get you down.
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ur such a sweetheart!! Thanks dear friend for making me feel sooo much better!!
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