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shima5716's Homepage http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716 Sun, 20 Jul 2008 05:37 EDT Sun, 20 Jul 2008 05:37 EDT Zorpia.com NO MORE GAMES http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1808750 NO MORE GAMES By Caitlin Ascolese <img height="40" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> <img src="http://images.match.com/match/magazine/globals/dropcaps/N.gif" align="left" border="0" />ew research proves what Vincent Chase on Entourage taught us: Playing it cool can definitely help your love life. â€œOur study found that when you like someone but arenâ€™t sure if they like you back, itâ€™s far more alluring to you than if you like someone and know they like you back,â€ says Paul Eastwick, a graduate student at the Northwestern Relationships Lab at Northwestern University. Maybe itâ€™s the thrill of the chase or the excitement of the uncertainty, but potential mates really do fall for you faster if youâ€™re tough to pin down. But thereâ€™s a fine line between being a bit elusive and coming off as a complete <img height="20" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> Caitlin Ascolese is a freelance writer in New York City. player. â€œPeople are so savvy right now that they can immediately weed out someone whoâ€™s insincere,â€ says Kathryn Alice, author of Love Will Find You. In other words, being hard to get is an aphrodisiac, but playing hard to get is a sure way to sabotage things ASAP. We asked relationship experts to weigh in the most common ways people try to play hard to getâ€”and offer smarter solutions that seem sexy, not scheming. Hot Topic: Returning emails<img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> The old-school strategy: Wait at least as long as the person took to write to reply. Ding! Youâ€™ve got a new message from your crush. You know the worry: If you hit â€œreplyâ€ right away, and itâ€™ll look like youâ€™re just sitting around waiting for that email, so you sit on your hands till you can reply without looking desperate. The better plan: If you wait too long, your game-playing becomes obvious, because we all know it doesnâ€™t take more than a few seconds to type a â€œhey, nice to hear from youâ€ note. â€œYou donâ€™t want to send long emails a dozen times a day, but definitely write the person back within 24 hours, or the same day if possible,â€ says Jackie Black, Ph.D., author of Meeting Your Match. That guideline will prevent you from seeming aloof and keep you on pace to find out if youâ€™re a real match offline. Hot topic: Drive-by phone calls<img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> The old-school strategy: Call the person while youâ€™re on the goâ€”say, in traffic or waiting for someone at a restaurant. The better plan: True, calling from a busy location proves that youâ€™re an out-and-about kind of person. But it also says that youâ€™re so intimidated by quality conversation that you have to multitask. Thatâ€™s an instant turnoff to someone whoâ€™s looking for a partner with solid relationship potential. â€œIt really dishonors the other person,â€ says Alice. For best results (and to avoid annoying phone cut-outs), only bother calling when youâ€™ve got the time and quiet to actually talk. Hot Topic: Waiting to call<img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> The old-school strategy: Let a pre-set amount of time go by before getting in touch. Most people have their own version of these waiting-game rulesâ€”says, three days after getting a prospectâ€™s number; forty-eight hours after the first dateâ€¦ never past Wednesday under a full moon. A better plan: Whatever your go-to time-frame for making a move, consider replacing it with this one: Call the person when you want to talk. â€œWaiting just for the sake of waiting sends the message that youâ€™re a player, insincere, and unable to commit,â€ says Black. â€œThe people who that will attract are the people who match those unattractive qualities.â€ No, you donâ€™t want to leave a billion voice mails so you seem desperate, but following your instinct will put the real you on the line. Wait too long, and a perfectly great match could simply lose momentum and fizzle out. But if you mix up your callback time â€” so youâ€™re consistent but not totally predictable â€” youâ€™ll still be hard to getâ€¦ just not rude. Hot Topic: Flaunting your options<img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> The old-school strategy: Hint (or worse) at being involved with other people. â€œOne thing I see all the time is people purposely bringing dates to a place where they know another person theyâ€™re dating will see them,â€ says Joy Villaneuva, a cocktail server at Las Vegas hotspot Light Nightclub at Bellagio. â€œIt always backfires because one date feels used, one feels insulted, and neither of them wants to spend time with you.â€ A better plan: Even if youâ€™re not so brazen as to bring competing suitors into the same room, you may think youâ€™re being clever by mentioning other prospects so your date knows youâ€™re a hot property. But â€œyouâ€™re only sabotaging yourself by doing this because it basically broadcasts that youâ€™re insecure and trying to making the person jealous,â€ says Alice. So donâ€™t say anything about other people until itâ€™s time to have the exclusivity talk. After all, leaving your date wondering whether youâ€™re seeing anyone else makes you intriguing; letting that person know you are seeing someone else makes you unavailable. Hot Topic: Acting a little uninterested<img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> The old-school strategy: Give your date a little insult so he or she works harder to win you over. A better plan: When the best-selling book The Game came out in 2005, it introduced millions of readers to the â€œnegâ€: A subtle jab that makes the person feel insecure around you (like, â€œGreat nailsâ€”are they real?â€). â€œSingles do this to build up self-esteem, but it really makes them seem scared of intimacy,â€ says Alice. â€œA far better way to get that self-esteem is to make people want to be around you because of your personality.â€ To that end, make jokes about things you have in common or at your own expense to put the person at ease and show your date youâ€™re funny and gracious. Hot Topic: Acting a little over-interested<img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> The old-school strategy: Tease wildly over email or cell, but act cool when it comes to physical contact. A better plan: Maybe you know one of these types: The super-sultry text-messaging type who blushes in person at the slightest flirtation; the flirty emailer who wonâ€™t kiss at the end of the date. Whether consciously playing coy or not, this dater is part of a trend. â€œItâ€™s so easy to be suggestive when you donâ€™t have to see the person, but then you meet him or her and have to see if the chemistryâ€™s actually there,â€ says Alice. Limit your between-dates communication, especially anything saucy. Then any in-person flirtation will feel genuine and excitingâ€”not disappointing. Hot Topic: Making dates work to fit into your schedule <img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> The old-school strategy: Have (or pretend to have) so many plans itâ€™s nearly impossible to squeeze in a date. A better plan: It takes a lot of courage for someone to ask you out, which is why it can be very off-putting if your response is â€œHowâ€™s three weeks from next Tuesday?â€ Itâ€™s great to have things to doâ€”it proves youâ€™ve got a busy, full life, which is super-sexy. But if thereâ€™s literally no time to date, then you probably shouldnâ€™t be datingâ€”especially if youâ€™re hoping to connect with someone with just as full a life. So instead of forcing yourself to block out entire evenings for rote dinners-and-movies, allow your date access to your already-busy life. â€œSuggest things to do that you enjoy and invite the person into your life,â€œ says Black. Think: â€œIâ€™m pretty booked, but I was hoping to get to the wild dogs exhibition at the nature center this weekendâ€”want to check it out?â€ or â€œI never miss my Thursday tai chiâ€”any interest?â€ Not only will you make time for someone special, youâ€™ll bond in fun new ways that youâ€™d never get over a glass of â€œSo where did you go to college?â€ <div align="justify"> <table id="tblPullQuote" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" width="202" align="left" border="0"> <tbody> <tr> <td valign="top" align="left"><img src="http://images.match.com/match/magazine/globals/buckets/dots_pullQuoteTop.gif" /></td> <td valign="top" align="left" rowspan="3"><img height="1" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="15" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td class="text_pullquote" valign="top" align="left">Allow your date access to your already-busy life.</td> </tr> <tr> <td valign="top" align="left"><img src="http://images.match.com/match/magazine/globals/buckets/dots_pullQuoteBtm.gif" /></td> </tr> </tbody> </table> </div> Personal http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1808750 Sat, 31 May 2008 19:59 EDT THE NEW RULES OF ATTRACTION http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1806826 Think opposites attract or that first kisses must rock if youâ€™re a match? The latest research says otherwise. Below, an updated approach to finding love. <img height="20" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> <table id="tblArticleContent" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" width="600" bgcolor="#ffffff" border="0"> <tbody> <tr> <td valign="top" align="left" rowspan="2"><img height="1" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="25" /></td> <td valign="top" align="left"><img height="15" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="510" /></td> <td valign="top" align="left" rowspan="2"><img height="1" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="25" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td valign="top" align="left">By Nina Malkin <img height="40" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> <img src="http://images.match.com/match/magazine/globals/dropcaps/W.gif" align="left" border="0" />hen it comes to finding love, there are certain truths that seem so irrefutable that any single person would be a fool not to follow them. Maybe youâ€™re a firm believer that you can tell within seconds if youâ€™re attracted to someone. Or, maybe you adhere to the idea that a first kiss says it all: If you feel fireworks, your dateâ€™s a keeper; if it bombs, cut your losses. While these romantic maxims have their fans, experts insist that these laws no longer hold true in todayâ€™s dating world. In short, many rules single people follow need a little revamping. To that end, weâ€™ve consulted authorities in the field to bring you the most up-to-date tactics for finding someone youâ€™ll click with. Old rule: You can tell if youâ€™re truly attracted to someone in three seconds<img height="12" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> New rule: You canâ€™t tell if youâ€™re truly attracted to someone until youâ€™ve had three dates â€œLove at first sightâ€ is a familiar romantic notion. And in our increasingly fast-paced world, itâ€™s darn convenient to think you can tell if you click with someone that quickly. <table id="tblPullQuote" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" width="202" align="right" border="0"> <tbody> <tr> <td valign="top" align="left" rowspan="3"><img height="1" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="15" /></td> <td valign="top" align="left"><img src="http://images.match.com/match/magazine/globals/buckets/dots_pullQuoteTop.gif" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td class="text_pullquote" valign="top" align="left">Wish lists are a classic recipe for unsuccessful datingâ€”they donâ€™t allow for chemistry.</td> </tr> <tr> <td valign="top" align="left"><img src="http://images.match.com/match/magazine/globals/buckets/dots_pullQuoteBtm.gif" /></td> </tr> </tbody> </table>But experts recommend cultivating a bit more patience, sticking to a three-date minimum to know for sure whether youâ€™re a match (or not). The reason: People are a bundle of nerves on date #1, begin to unwind on date #2, but only by date #3 can people truly relax and maybe build some rapport. And while sparks early on are nice and all, they say nothing about someoneâ€™s long-term potential. â€œAn important part of a compatible relationship is ensuring that each partnerâ€™s values coincide, and to learn that takes time, discussion, observation, and interpersonal interaction, not an initial impression based on superficial cues,â€ says James C. Piers, Ph.D., professor and program director of social work, at Hope College in Holland, MI. So, donâ€™t write someone off â€” or fall head over heels â€” until youâ€™ve done due diligence. Old rule: Your mate must meet all the criteria on your â€œmust-have listâ€<img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> New rule: A â€œmust-have listâ€ looks great on paper, but paper wonâ€™t keep you warm at night You can check off the attributes you wantâ€”appearance, background, education, career, salaryâ€”but unless youâ€™re building your lover in a lab, youâ€™re missing out. Of course, you should have standards and not settle for a two-pack-a-day smoker who doesnâ€™t want kids when youâ€™re allergic to smoke and eager to start a family. But settling for nothing less than perfection is unrealistic. â€œWish lists are a classic recipe for unsuccessful dating,â€ says Fleming. â€œTheyâ€™re too limiting and donâ€™t allow for chemistry, which is more intangible and valuable.â€ Try to be flexible, especially when it comes to physical or material attributes like someoneâ€™s height, salary, or hair color. After all, just because someoneâ€™s 6â€™2â€, blonde, or makes six figures doesnâ€™t mean he or she will make you happy, so do yourself a favor and treat your ideal-mate wish list as just one factor in deciding whoâ€™s right for you. Old rule: Opposites attract<img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> New rule: Opposites distract Dating your diametric opposite might mean the surprise of someone really new and different, lots of challenging banter and scintillating make-up sexâ€”but sustaining a partnership with your polar opposite may ultimately prove unfulfilling. â€œThe classic couple with nothing in common except their on-fire fights plays well in the movies, but in real life that attraction fizzles quickly,â€ says Alyssa Wodtke, co-author of Truth, Lies, and Online Dating: Secrets to Finding Romance on the Internet. â€œIf you donâ€™t like to do the same things, there will be nothing for you to do outside of the bedroom. And if you donâ€™t want the same things for the future, what kind of future can you have?â€ Weâ€™re not saying you should end up with your clone, but ideally it should be someone who complements your personality (see the next rule for more details). Old rule: Your dateâ€™s record collection (or DVD library, or bookshelf) mirrors yoursâ€”so you must be soul mates<img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> New rule: You want a person, not an iPod playlist Sometimes you meet someone and have so much in common, you know it must be love: Each of you saw <table id="tblPullQuote" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" width="202" align="left" border="0"> <tbody> <tr> <td valign="top" align="left"><img src="http://images.match.com/match/magazine/globals/buckets/dots_pullQuoteTop.gif" /></td> <td valign="top" align="left" rowspan="3"><img height="1" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="15" /></td> </tr> <tr> <td class="text_pullquote" valign="top" align="left">If youâ€™re you up all night analyzing someoneâ€™s emails, perhaps this person doesnâ€™t really want to be yours.</td> </tr> <tr> <td valign="top" align="left"><img src="http://images.match.com/match/magazine/globals/buckets/dots_pullQuoteBtm.gif" /></td> </tr> </tbody> </table>Phish perform at least a dozen times and know the works of David Sedaris inside out. But donâ€™t confuse mirror-image taste with chemistry. In fact, itâ€™s probably better if your interests donâ€™t match up exactly. Not only does that leave room for you to expand your boundaries and dabble in something new that your partner digs, it also means you two will probably have little trouble maintaining some healthy independence. â€œSome of the best relationships are those where both parties have completely independent hobbies and allow for the concept of â€˜his, her, and ourâ€™ time,â€ notes relationship coach Hu Fleming, Ph.D. So, take it as a good sign if you spend the occasional Saturday night apartâ€”you doing dips at ballroom dancing class, your date doing the wave at an NBA game. Old rule: Your first kiss should be a toe-curling experience<img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> New rule: Your first kiss is inconsequential In fairytales, an amazing first kiss leads to happily ever afterâ€”no wonder we place such importance on that primary pucker! But there are ample reasons why a first kiss from a potentially great partner can go awry (nervousness or a less-than-ideal setting) and just as many to explain why a first kiss from Mr./Ms. Wrong can feel so right (youâ€™ve exceeded the two-drink minimum, perhaps). â€œA kiss can be a romantic, erotic experience with someone you find physically attractive, but a relationship will crumble without more complex attributes like shared values,â€ points out Piers. So rather than write someone off following a less-than-mind-blowing kiss, smile and move in slowly for smooch number two, either at that moment or on a subsequent date. Trust us, you owe it to yourselves. Old rule: When itâ€™s true love, you think about this person constantly<img height="7" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> New rule: When itâ€™s true love, thinking about this person makes you feel good Hmm, has Willie Nelsonâ€™s â€œYouâ€™re Always on My Mindâ€ become the theme song for how you feel about your sweetie? That may not be for the best. â€œConstantly thinking about another person isnâ€™t love, itâ€™s infatuation, and infatuation has no correlation with being a good match,â€ says Fleming. Ultimately, itâ€™s a better gauge to assess the quality of your thoughts rather than the quantity. â€œIf you have warm and comfortable feelings when you think about your date, that indicates a relationship built on stability, trust, and a strong â€˜friendshipâ€™ factor, denoting a relationship that will more likely wear well over time,â€ says Piers. If, on the other hand, your relationship keeps you up all night as you analyze this personâ€™s emails for hidden messages that reveal his or her true feelings, you may be chasing down someone who doesnâ€™t really want to be yours. <img height="20" src="http://images.match.com/match/s.gif" width="1" /> Nina Malkin is the author of 6X: The Uncensored Confessions. </td> </tr> </tbody> </table> Personal http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1806826 Sat, 24 May 2008 18:09 EDT Did I marry Mr RIGHT?? http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1803405 <div style="TEXT-ALIGN: center"></div> <div style="TEXT-ALIGN: center" align="justify">A concern friend emailed to me this article which she thinks of relevance, mwah love her much!!</div> <div style="TEXT-ALIGN: center" align="justify"></div> <div style="TEXT-ALIGN: center" align="justify">"DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?" <div style="TEXT-ALIGN: center" align="justify">---------------------------------------- <div style="TEXT-ALIGN: center" align="justify"> During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?". I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer... EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): <div style="TEXT-ALIGN: center" align="justify">"THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND." <div style="TEXT-ALIGN: center" align="justify">SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..you can "make" love. Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . Not just a feeling . Remember this always... "God determines who walks into your life , It is up to you to decide who you allow to walk away, who you allow to stay, and who you refuse to let go , It's all in your mind to make the decision, Pray hard and god will show you the journey , and remember when there is opportunities, go for it and consider, And the right decision made, you will be happy forever. " </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> Personal http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1803405 Tue, 13 May 2008 18:18 EDT To make you feel my love http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1801114 To make you feel my love When the rain is blowing in your face And the whole world is on your kiss I would offer you a warm embrace To make you feel my love When evening shadows and the stars appear And there is no one to dry your tears I could hold you for a million years To make you feel my love I know you haven't made your mind up yet  But I would never do you wrong I've known it from the moment that we met There's no doubt in my mind where you belong I'd go hungry, I'd go black and blue I'd go crawling down the avenue There ain't nothing that I wouldn't do To make you feel my love hmmmm... The storms are raging on a rolling sea Down the highway of regret Winds of change are blowing wild and free You ain't seen nothin' like me yet There ain't nothin' that I wouldn't do Go to the ends of the earth for you Make you happy make your dreams come true To make you feel my love Personal http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1801114 Tue, 06 May 2008 15:36 EDT Romance Scammer? http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1800547 romance scammer?? i m the naive one but grateful of being protected by God the Merciful. a week ago, a message came offering purely friendship.Like most first messages, they will start with the admiration of me wearing the head gear etc etc. a week of normal polite online exchanges, X claimed to be a saddened man who has lost his wife in an accident back in Venezuela, now starting a new life with son in the states and working in Nigeria. he sent in 4 photographs, two which have him n son..come to think of it, it was really carefully planned.. sensing that there was something not quite right, i decided to talk to my husband abt it and the next time X came online, my hub n I spoke to him. we even offered to have his son visit us for summer holidays. but still doubting him, i challenged him to show himself via webcam and as expected he came with lame excuses. he says that he will suprise me once he's back in the states as he is now in Nigeria. today started as an unhappy day for me as my hub confesses that he is really unhappy/jealous that I chat with X.told him that i do not want anyone else but him and asked for most 5 days to settle what i so stupidly started. tonite, just now X came online again. as usual, he'll show concern over me asking whether i am well etc. but in his last reply to me, he accidently copied his online conversation with another girl. apparently he is also chatting with another and the lines to her are not unfamiliar to me. i was dumb folded for a sec before i wrote the most vulgar reply i have ever written in my entire chat period. X immediately made himself invisible!!i hope that i wont be hearing from him. i then confronted my hub, kissin his hand for forgiveness. lesson learnt!! p/s : the other girl he was manipulating has this display name: Jane Doe p/s : cant help wondering his modus operandi..what he actually wanted!!     Romance & Relationships http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1800547 Sun, 04 May 2008 20:12 EDT Lonely but loved http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1798009 27 April 2008 Still in Stoke-on-trent Got my wish of going to Wedgwood factory outlet and  Royal Doulton Called hubby n was doing fine with children; felt the love! Rather lonely .. Sharing this Shakespeare's sonnet If I should think of love I'd think of you, your arms uplifted, Tying your hair in plaits above, The lyre shape of your arms and shoulders, The soft curve of your winding head. No melody is sweeter, nor could Orpheus So have bewitched. I think of this, And all my universe becomes perfection. But were you in my arms, dear love, The happiness would take my breath away, No thought could match that ecstasy, No song encompass it, no other worlds. If I should think of love, I'd think of you. *imagining that hubby is sending the sonnet to me hihihi Personal http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1798009 Sat, 26 Apr 2008 17:18 EDT on the road again http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1797226 Urrggghhh hate travellin left Letterkenny at 10 to 2 am, arrived Dub airport at 5 am, on plane at 6.30, reached Sheffield at 11.30, got into room 12.00 at last these eyes are just not made for napping urrggghhh hate being away from home everything feels topsy turvy..why is this.. chapters and more chapters to write n writing is s s s s s s s sooooo slow just wish that: can sew curtains? can make vanilla cup cakes? can pamper children? shop and shop and shop? stand on a high cliff and shout my heart out? it used to be fun being at a new place..sheffield what do u have for me? hope the workshops will give me loads of input for a chapter hope I will meet new intellectual friends? but I got many of them already? do I need more...   Personal http://www.zorpia.com/shima5716/journal/1797226 Thu, 24 Apr 2008 09:21 EDT