Love Maps Questionnaire

By giving honest answers to the following questions, you will get a sense of the quality of your current love maps.  For the most accurate reading of how your marriage is doing on this first principle, both of you should complete the following.

Read each statement and circle T for “true” or  F for  “false.”

I can name my partner’s best friends.  T  F

I can tell you what stresses my partner  is currently facing.  T  F

I know the names of some of the people who have been irritating my partner lately.  T  F

I can tell you some of my partner’s life dreams.  T  F

I am very familiar with my partner’s religious beliefs and ideas.  T  F

I can tell you about my partner’s basic philosophy of life.  T  F

I can list the relatives my partner likes the least.  T  F

I know my partner’s favorite music.  T  F

I can list my partner’s three favorite movies.  T  F

My spouse is familiar with my current stresses.  T  F

I know the three most special times in my partner’s life.  T  F

I can tell you the most stressful thing that happened to my partner as a child.  T  F

I can list my partner’s major aspirations and hopes in life.  T  F

I know my partner’s major current worries.  T  F

My spouse knows who my friends are.  T  F

I know what my partner would want to do if he or she suddenly won the lottery.  T  F

I can tell you in detail my first impressions of my partner.  T  F

Periodically I ask my partner about his or her world right now.  T  F

I feel that my partner knows me pretty well.  T  F

My spouse is familiar with my hopes and aspirations.  T  F

Scoring:  Give yourself one point for each “true’ answer.

10 or above:  The is an area of strength for your marriage.  You have a fairly detailed map of your spouse’s everyday life, hopes, fears, and dreams.  You know what makes your spouse “tick.”  This will serve as a reminder of how connected you and your partner are.  Try not to take for granted this knowledge and understanding of each other.  Keeping in touch in this way ensures you’ll be well equipped to handle any problem areas that crop up in your relationship.